Safe sex?

Amy Welborn discusses Cardinal Trujillo's recent comments on condoms and AIDS, and offers her own thoughts as well. She proposes the follow thought experiment:

Perhaps its helpful, if we're trying to understand, to think of it this way: What if your daughter came to you and said, "I'm going to have sex with a man who's HIV positive, but he's going to use a condom. Okay?"

Aside from all the other attendant issues, would you be happy with her actions? Would you feel that she was doing a "safe" thing?

And would cheerily paying for the condom yourself, handing it to her, and saying, "Have a good time and good luck" be a loving act? Do you think, in retrospect, she would see it so?